3 Reason Why Forgiveness Is For You And Not Them
Written By Erica J
In life, you will come across someone who will hurt you. Sometimes it’s a person you don’t know, but many time it’s the people closest to you. Once this happens, you are faced with the decision of forgiving them or not. Many times, the decision is not to forgive. Maybe the person committed a heinous acts towards you! Maybe they lied about something! or worse. Either way, you may have decided it’s unforgivable in your eyes. But who does this hurt? Well the answer is it hurts you more than the other person. Opting out of forgiving is a spirit that keeps you in bondage and destroys you mentally, physically, and spiritually. So what does forgiveness mean? Forgiveness is acknowledging the person’s apology and having compassion for them. Now wait! Forgiveness doesn’t mean being a doormat or allowing people to treat you horribly, but being sympathetic towards them. In this blog, I will give you 3 reasons why forgiveness is for you, not them.
#1 You Are Set Free
Ever heard of the saying “Let go and Let God”! Well in a quick sum, that’s the definition of freedom. To truly be free, you must let go. Let go of the pain, the hurt, and the sorrow. When you hold on to unforgiveness, it creates a darkness that eats you up little by little. You may not realize it because you put a smile on your face in front of other, you tell people it’s not bothering you, or you act like it doesn’t exist, but in reality, it’s holding you in a spiritual jail. You are held in bondage over your decision not forgive. So do as the saying say, Let it go! Stop giving that situation the power over you! When you forgive a person, you develop peace that’s undescribeable. I’m not saying to have lunch with them, but when you have peace, you can see them in public and still speak to them. You don’t have to put energy in turning your head, pretending you don’t see them, or worse, being mean to them. Decide today to free yourself. Set yourself free so you are able to truly enjoy what life has to offer.
#2 Improves Your Health
Did you know, over 50% of cancer patients have forgiveness issues? But it doesn’t stop there. Having forgiveness issues causes other illness such as high blood pressure, anxiety, and heart disease to name a few. Some people go to the grave without forgiving the person who hurt them. Can you imagine? To die, and leave this earth without forgiving a person is sad because the person didn’t make it right before they left. Now lets’ get into some of the health effects from not forgiving a person. Did you know having high blood pressure causes rapid or irregular heart rates, eventually damaging your heart. What are some symptoms of high blood pressure? Chest pains, headaches, and difficulty breathing are just a few things. If you are experiencing any of these things, and you know you haven’t forgiven someone, try that first. Of course, changing your diet and exercising are some of the key points to eliminate high blood pressure, but forgiving is also an important part. Don’t allow your illness to make you sicker or worse, die because you choose to hold on to your grudge. It’s not worth it! Free yourself and your health by forgiving those who have hurt you.
#3 Restore Your Peace of Mind
To have peace, is to have treasures! You can’t pay for peace, peace is a trait you develop and must be determined to keep. Always remember no one can take your peace from you. You give your peace away when you decide to engage in meaningless disputes with people. People walk around everyday, living in a state of unforgiveness. Don’t be these people. Most of them are unhappy and it shows in their everyday life. They are angry at the world and the world is to blame. No, you chose to be this way! No one is making you be mean and there is certainly no excuse for it. In order to have true happiness, you must pursue peace each day. So make the decision today to seek, find and hold on to peace. Peace in a big part of you and when you chose not to forgive, you give a piece of that away. You deserve true happiness but first you must forgive!
Let go of what has hurt you. You’ve given too much time towards it, but now it’s time to trash it. Forgive those you harbor unforgiveness for so you can be free and set them free. Make today a new start, with forgiveness being at the front of it. You will never forget what has happened and that won’t change, but you can let it go and not allow it to control you any longer. Trust me, whatever you put out, is what you will get back, so let greatness, happiness, joy, and peace come towards you. Run from the spiritual jail you are in, free yourself of the illness you may be suffering, and start to truly live. Life is beautiful but you will never experience the true beauty of it if you are holding on to your past. They hurt you, but trust me, they will reap it. So forgive them, wish them well, and let it go.